Little tips for loneliness with Kim Ingleby

By Kim Ingleby, Energised Performance Coach, Presenter and Mentor

Loneliness Awareness Week is such an important initiative led by the Marmalade Trust from 9th June, aiming to raise awareness about the profound impact of loneliness on well-being.  I first met Amy, the founder of The Marmalade Trust at an Entrepreneurial programme which we were part of.  Amy is amazing, and what she has created is so powerful and needed.

Whilst initially supporting the older community & individuals, the Marmalade Trust has expanded to reach all ages and backgrounds, realising the depth of loneliness affecting so many people.  Loneliness can catch us at any time, often in the most busy times of our lives.  During grief, loss, life changes, over whelm, social anxiety and neurodiversity are just some of the areas which can contribute.

Since meeting Amy I’ve been supporting the Marmalade trust with their fundraising, Awareness Week & Christmas Dinners, bringing people together.  From the pandemic I have been visiting several elderly people on a weekly basis. Sometimes to drop food and prescriptions in, yet more often than not the most important thing is our conversation.  A friendly face and a little bit of time to listen.

Vera, is my 89 year old buddy.  I love visiting her, and yes, in our busy lives sometimes it feels rushed, yet I always aim to make enough time.  She is wise, sharp as a button, full of wisdom and stories, hope and love.  She had a little dog until recently, and without her furry best friend, I have really noticed the benefit of our time together.

Often she mentions the loneliness, keeping the TV on, knitting garments for dog shelters and writing cards to friends.  She loves to listen to all music & comedy... as she often says, ‘Kim, my dear, you never know when your times up so make the most of it.  Always be kind, make someone’s day better & choose love, whatever happens in life, love is your answer.’ And my goodness has Vera seen a lot of the fabric of life…

From Vera to Roger, another wise soul who sadly passed away recently. Yet I don’t think he would mind me sharing our last real conversation. I’m adding to it, but it’s a lovely message.  He said, ‘Kim, you must always have a purpose to your days, even if that’s just to go to the shops and buy a paper, like I do.  Then find your people, they could be anyone, people you can be at ease with, who are there for you. It doesn’t need to be many, and most importantly be there for yourself, support yourself from a place of kindness. 

'Passion, do something you love, for no reason other than you love it, it brings you joy and connection, mine he said, is going to the football.  And finally, places, find the places that bring you peace at the end of your day.  It’s really that simple, it doesn’t need to cost much, and at the end of our days, all we have is the love we’ve given & kindness we pass on.’

So to Roger & Vera, two very special people I volunteer for, thank you.

I learn so much from my visits to them.  Human connection, or connection with animals is so important for us, we are animals too.  Connection to ourselves and ones we love.

Volunteering is an amazing way to help someone else, and yet it will always help and give back to you too.  Conversations, courage, connection, care.  A circle of support.  So this Loneliness Awareness Week, connect with yourself, be kind and help yourself, connect with those you love, and reach out to support others. It may just make the difference, just a quick hello could give someone the connection they need.

Little tips for loneliness

Read on for some little tips for loneliness.

Reach out – however hard it feels

Initiate conversations with friends, family, and acquaintances. Make an effort to reconnect with old friends or join social clubs and community groups that align with your interests. Taking the first step can lead to new connections and meaningful relationships.

Embrace Technology

While technology can sometimes contribute to feelings of isolation, it can also be a powerful tool for connection. Utilise video calls, social media, and online forums to stay in touch with loved ones or find communities that share your passions. Embrace virtual events, classes, and workshops that allow you to interact with like-minded individuals even if you can’t get physically to them.

Volunteer

Giving back to others not only benefits those in need but also provides an opportunity to meet new people and form connections. Look for local charities, non-profit organisations, or community centres where you can contribute your time and skills. The act of helping others can be immensely fulfilling and create a sense of belonging.

Prioritise Self-Care

Loneliness can be exacerbated by negative emotions and low self-esteem. Make self-care a priority by engaging in activities that bring you joy and promote mental well-being. Practice mindfulness, engage in regular exercise, maintain a balanced diet, and ensure you get sufficient rest. Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally will empower you to cultivate meaningful connections.

Hugs

Hugging for 20 secs can improve our wellbeing and connection. Hug yourself, a loved one, or a loved one’s animals (check they are happy to hug first though as not everyone finds it easy).

Things to do this June (2025)

I have an online Mediation on Tues 24th June. You need no experience , just a quite space and warm blanket; it’s safe and lovely. I would love you to join us for Strawberry Moon Yoga Nidra; book your place here or email for funded places. All are welcome.

I have a little book called  ’52 Tips to Feel Good’. All the profit from book sales will go to Marmalade Trust this week. You can buy a copy here or email for signed copies & to order directly. We can send your whole team or family a copy; simply feel good tips, 4 lines a page.

I would love to hear your stories and connect, I’m @kimingleby on all socials and here to support, share and cheer you on, however life is meeting you today.

And to the Marmalade Trust, a massive well done and thank you for all you do, it makes the difference.